Escort Etiquette: The Unwritten Rules

Escort etiquette is mostly ordinary good manners with a few conventions nobody explains until you have broken one. None of it is complicated, and getting it right is the difference between a booking that goes well and one that ends early.

Before she arrives

Shower. It is the single thing most often mentioned when we ask how a booking went, in both directions. Clean, freshly dressed, teeth done.

Tidy the room. Nobody expects a hotel suite. They do expect somewhere they can put their coat down.

Have the payment ready. Counted, in an envelope or folded, somewhere visible. This matters more than people realise, and the next section explains why.

Have a drink to offer. Water is enough. It gives the first few minutes something to do.

The money

Leave it somewhere she can see it rather than handing it over. On the side, on the table, by the kettle. She will not count it in front of you and neither of you will mention it again.

This is the convention because it removes the one genuinely awkward moment from the evening. Handing over cash makes the transaction the first thing that happens; leaving it visible means it has already happened.

Never ask to pay afterwards, and never be short and offer to make it up next time.

The first ten minutes

There is usually a drink and some conversation before anything else. That part is not a formality to be got through. It is how two people who have not met stop being strangers, and skipping it makes everything after it worse rather than better.

Ask how her evening has been. Talk about something. It costs a few minutes and changes the whole booking.

What not to ask

Her real name. She has a working name for a reason.

Her number, or to see her outside the arrangement. The agency holds the diary for a reason too, and this is the request that most reliably ends a good working relationship.

Anything not on her profile. What she offers is listed because she chose to list it. Anything absent is absent on purpose, and asking at the booking rather than beforehand is the quickest way to end one.

To remove the condom. Asking is not negotiating, it is the end of the booking.

During

Say if something is not working. Nobody minds being told the music is too loud or the room is too cold. Everybody minds sitting opposite someone quietly having a bad time.

Keep track of the time yourself rather than making her raise it. If you want longer, ask before the hour is up, not as she is getting dressed.

She can decline anything at any point, and end the booking if she is uncomfortable, without giving a reason. That is not a technicality. It is the basis on which any of this works.

Afterwards

Let her leave when she is ready. Do not follow her out, do not ask where she is going, do not walk her to a taxi unless she asks.

If it went well, say so to the agency. It genuinely reaches her and it makes the next booking easier for both of you.

If you need to cancel

Call as early as you can. There is no charge for cancelling with reasonable notice. Booking and cancelling repeatedly on the day is the one thing that will get you taken off the books.

Our guide on booking for the first time covers the call itself, and staying discreet deals with the practical side of privacy.