Booking a Dominatrix in London

A dominatrix is not simply an escort who is willing to take charge. It is a role with its own conventions, its own vocabulary and, in the people who do it well, a good deal of practice behind it. Knowing the difference is most of what stands between a session that works and an hour of polite improvisation.

The role

A dominatrix leads. The session is structured by her, and the person booking gives up the decisions for its duration.

What that looks like ranges enormously. At one end it is firm direction and nothing more elaborate. At the other it is a properly constructed scene with a beginning, a middle and an agreed end. Both are legitimate and they are not the same booking, which is why describing what you want matters more here than almost anywhere else.

You will also see the word domme, and sessions rather than bookings. Same thing.

What we list, and what it means

On our books the terms are separated because the answers are separate.

• Domination, she leads. Seventy four of our roster list it.
• Submissive, the other role, listed by fourteen. Offering one says nothing about the other.
• BDSM, the wider heading, twenty one.
• Fetish, a specific interest as part of the evening, eighty three.
• Spanking, giving, eighty eight, and receiving, thirty nine. Check which one a profile says.
• Foot worship, seventy, and more widely offered than people expect.

Seventy four listing domination does not mean seventy four dominatrices. It means seventy four who are comfortable leading. The number who run structured sessions regularly is smaller, and we know which they are.

Say what you want before, not during

The whole guide in one line, and the same point our guide on domination and fetish bookings makes at more length.

A profile listing tells you she is open to a category. It does not tell you what she does inside it, and no two people listing domination mean quite the same thing. Ring and describe what you have in mind. It changes who we suggest, which is the entire value of asking.

If saying it out loud is the difficult part, say it badly. Nobody handling the call is going to be surprised, and we would much rather have that conversation while a booking is being made than have you spend an hour hoping.

Limits, and the word that stops it

Agreed beforehand and binding for the whole session, hers and yours both.

Agree a word that means stop. Simple, unambiguous, and not something either of you might say in the ordinary run of things. Either of you can use it, and using it ends that part of the session without discussion or apology.

Anyone who treats a pre-agreed limit as negotiable once you are in the room is somebody to end the booking with. That holds in both directions.

Practical points

• Incall, almost always. Her space, set up for it, with whatever is needed to hand. A hotel room is a poor substitute.
• Kit varies. Some keep their own and some do not. Ask when you book rather than assuming.
• Ninety minutes upward. An hour is short for anything structured, since establishing a scene takes time that then is not available for the scene.
• Experience matters more here. An ordinary booking with somebody new to it is fine. A session is a different proposition.
• Surcharges, where they apply, are on the profile, not added at the door. See how to pay.

If it is your first

Say so when you ring. It is the single most useful thing you can tell us, it changes who we suggest, and nobody thinks anything of it.

Start shorter and less structured than the version in your head. Almost everyone who books a first session over-specifies it, and the ones who enjoy themselves most are the ones who arrived with a direction rather than a script.

Where in London

The escorts who take these sessions are concentrated in Mayfair, Marylebone and Earls Court, which is where the incall flats with the space for it are.

See who offers domination, read the fuller guide to these bookings, or ring +44 20 7846 3480 and describe what you are after.